I was reflecting back over the Father's Day weekend on experiences that I had with my dad over the years and especially the moments that built my confidence. 

I have one distinct memory while waterskiing as a young girl. I do not know how old I was but probably before the age of 10. I was being pulled by our boat on two skis, which was very comfortable for me. I remember taking a normal fall, and one of my skis floated back toward my dad, who was on the boat. I shouted out, "Throw me back my ski, dad." He looked at me full of confidence, very relaxed, and sure of the situation. He said, "It is time for just one ski." No discussion or conversation... just a "you got this" kind of mentality. He was right! I made the adjustment and got right up on one ski that day!

You can't always put your finger on why you become the person you are as you grow older. For some reason, this memory stands out as a small but powerful message my dad spoke to me. One, I could trust him. Two, he believed in me. Three, he could see things I could not.  

When it was time for me to make a college team decision, I could not see past my current friends and comfort. I was able to listen to his advice, and together we stepped into the journey of college and basically a new home for my life.

Parents can have an impact on their daughters in many different ways, especially in the recruiting process. So much of recruiting is an unknown for the athlete in any sport. When a recruit's parents are by her side as she writes emails and takes visits, the athlete have a sense of calm and assurance that she can step out and do this. The fear of failure or being rejected is not as big when the recruit has a "team" with her.

Some tips for parents below:

1.  Stay positive 

2.  Be realistic

3.  Be by your daughter's side but let her lead

4.  Keep a pulse on her passion for the sport

5.  Share stories with her about when you stepped out in the unknown 

6.  See recruiting as a journey with no regrets

7.  Remember that your daughter as a person is more important than her results as an athlete


Jill Hicks has an advising business for parents and gymnasts to help them navigate the college recruiting process. You can visit www.jhicksconsulting.com for more details and contact her for a free consultation to discuss your situation. Jill is also is available to travel to your club to speak to parents, gymnasts, and coaches and give a one-hour presentation on "Introduction To The College Recruiting Process."